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Changing our internal programming that limits us has never been simpler or easier; we just expect it to be more complex! When we associate images or objects that provide a state of relaxation and joy we create a receptive environment for the unconscious mind to accept powerful motivation and successful results.

Founding Father of Autosuggestion:

In the late 19th and early 20th century Emile Coue (a chemist who became a hypnotist) experimented with autosuggestion techniques with great results.

He believed and showed that by using one’s inner resources and imagination one could improve their life physically, mentally and spiritually.

The success he had curing patients with the affirmation below was nothing short of spectacular!

“Day by day, in every way, I am getting better and better.”

As a pharmacist he would encourage his patients to say this affirmation 20 times with a low voice, morning and evening, in a state of relaxation, like a litany.

He found the following immutable relationships (facts) that we have expanded:

A. When the will (conscious mind) and the imagination (unconscious mind) are antagonistic, it is always the imagination (unconscious mind) that wins, without exception.

This means, we can’t override our passive unconscious beliefs with our conscious thoughts. Most of us think we can and we are - what an illusion we are weaving!

B. In the conflict between the will (conscious mind) and the imagination (unconscious mind), the force of the imagination is in direct ratio to the square of the will.

This means, our unconscious mind’s beliefs are far more pervasive than we have ever understood, as the will (conscious mind) times the will (conscious mind) is a very strong force yet still only in ratio to the imagination (unconscious mind)!

We would have to constantly work ourselves into a huge state to override the unconscious mind consciously. Sometimes we can do this, though not often.

C. When the will (conscious mind) and the imagination (unconscious mind) are in agreement, one does not add to the other, but one is multiplied to the other.

What we already believe and know: unconscious and conscious, work very together very well in us. What we believe but don’t know are antagonistic and cause most of our limitations.

D. The imagination (unconscious mind) can be directed.

Without this we would never be able to change, our limitations would rule supreme! With this we have a powerful tool for input to align our conscious and unconscious minds for amplification of our intention!

Current Advocates:

This information has been used in many walks of life since.

Renowned motivators like Anthony Robbins and others have used this information to instil success programming into the unconscious mind of students though the use of affirmations.

Many have also used the hype through our peak experiences to make it more thrilling and attractive. This can retrain the unconscious mind or imagination to a new belief that hype is required to enable change: a potentially exhausting proposition for the home based student!

Successful athletes ‘program’ an anticipated winning performance and outcome for an event prior to their participation.

Movie producers lead our unconscious mind through a story to create an emotional reaction in us that we may not have experienced in real life.

Transforming it for Now:

We know that in a relaxed state we are more receptive to suggestion.

Want to convince someone of what you are saying? Use a technique that powerful motivational speakers use - disarm the audience first by getting them to relax, either by stretching or by being humorous.

So what is the most effective way to multiply the will (conscious mind) by the imagination (unconscious mind)?

Be in a relaxed and joyful state. In this state we are the most receptive to suggestion.

To do this;

- Choose an affirmation that would change your life, if you could act as if it were true.

- Induce a state of relaxation, and,

- Give it a tremendous boost by associating it with joy, a state of our higher mind.

Emile Coue repeatedly stresses that in order for autosuggestion to work, efforts must not be made; the will (conscious mind) must not be used. Affirmation must be used effortlessly; otherwise we are using the conscious mind only and doomed to mediocre results!

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My wife, Rosemary, and I have had many years experience coaching our clients to prosperity, leadership and living! One of the most effective methods we use is affirmations, with visual stimuli and higher mind states (joyfulness).

We want to share these results more widely and so set up a web site of dolphin gifts with affirmations. We have used dolphins, because of our universal relationship of joy through the magic they provide us, regardless of culture, religion or race. We have teamed this with powerful affirmations on our web site e store.

We hope that this provides not only a personalized experience but assists in effecting change in those aspiring to a greater life.

You may publish this article free of charge in your ezine, web site, ebook or print publication so long as the resource paragraph (at the end of the article) is included.

John Moore, a Prosperity Coach and Director of First One Pty Ltd, and has helped many people to change and achieve success and wealth in their lives with the aid of the techniques described in the article.
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The world is becoming obsessed with money and all things material. From the size of your house, the type of car and even where you travel on your holidays, some people are trying to go one better do their friends and family.

For me these people are quite sad. I have a friend who is similar to the people above, he is always thinking of money, always talking about money. How to earn it, how to spend it etc. He is part of a lottery syndicate, there are about fifty people in this syndicate. When he goes out on the Saturday evening, he always takes with him a piece of paper with the numbers on and a little pen. At around nine o’clock he phones his girlfriend and she tells him what the numbers are for that particular night. He then spends around twenty minutes checking the numbers, and then re-checking to see if he has any winning lines.

He then returns from the toilet area and is asked by other members of the group about how much he has won/lost. He has yet to have any major win to this point, this does not deter him however and for the next hour, he will start a debate, asking different people how they would spend their winnings, if they ever won the lottery.

For me the two most important things in life are health and happiness. These are two things which money can not buy. A number of years ago, my father became very ill. He had to spend around five months in hospital and he was only fifty seven. I feared the worst, even though I was trying my hardest to think and stay positive. I remember thinking, if I could give those doctors everything I own in the world, it still would not help him.

Happiness is the same, at times I have had lots of cash in my back pocket, however have been quite depressed. At other times I have had next to no money and have been extremely happy.

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It was a bright Saturday morning in the late fall. I had stopped at a cafe’ to enjoy a cup of coffee and scan the morning newspaper. Suddenly, I felt a hand on the back of my jacket and heard someone say, “Hey Steve! How ya doin’?”

Looking up, I saw a boy wearing a mechanic’s uniform worn by employees of the gasoline station next to the cafe’. He looked familiar, but, at first, I was unable to recall where we had met.

He also held a cup of coffee, so I asked him to join me. Very soon, his story–and probably my coffee–began to thaw out my memory.

Five years earlier, he had been traveling home late on a February night. He still had several of his friends with him. A ferocious blizzard had arrived that afternoon, and by midnight, the snowdrifts were getting deep. He recalled hitting a drift just down the road from my house.

He had walked to my house for help. I had taken my pickup and a towing rope and pulled him out of the snowdrift and up to the highway where maintenance trucks had cleaned away the snow.

This has been a common occurrence here during the winter. I cannot count the times someone has also pulled my car from a snowdrift.

However, it was an unforgettable experience for him. He was only eighteen at the time, and he described how frightened he had been. One would not want to be stuck all night in a storm like that one. Within a couple hours, my pickup would not have made it to the highway.

As it turned out, his memory and account of that snowy night was a very unexpected–and much appreciated–kindness toward me. I thanked him sincerely for stopping to chat during his break.

His memory of our unexpected meeting in a snowstorm brightened my entire day. Since then, we have had several chats over a Saturday morning cup of coffee.

Leo Buscaglia wrote, “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

Such simple actions can indeed have an underestimated power. Many people desperately need kind words, smiles, and listening ears. They need ears that will hear without judging and respond without possessing.

One simple kindness at the right moment can change the direction of a life and shine a light of hope when all light seems to have gone out. Sometimes it has the power to save a life.

Here is a great quote that I keep in my e-journal. It was written by William Penn…

“I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.”

Make today a memorable day by sharing a smile or kind word with at least one other person. It is difficult to estimate the tremendous power and value that the simplest acts of kindness bring. However, they do not stop where they begin. Their underestimated power will continue to bring you a life of joy and memorable experiences.

© Copyright 2005 by Steve Brunkhorst. Steve is a professional life success coach, motivational author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular mini-zine bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve more in your career and personal life. Get the next issue by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com

Recently, I have received several emails asking me about coaching and what it is exactly. So, I decided to answer some of those questions in this article.

First, of all let me start with what coaching is not. Coaching is not therapy or counseling. Therapy tends to focus on the past whereas coaching is often more future oriented. Also, coaches are not paid friends. You certainly have friends that are all ready giving you advice. Friends are often cautious in telling you what they really think and don’t want to hurt your feelings. Coaches hold you accountable for the goals you set and an action plan to meet those goals.

So, what is coaching? For years executives and athletes have had coaches to help them reach peak performance. Now, other people are seeing the benefits of having a coach. Coaches are a listening ear, listening to your goals and dreams. Coaches help you put those dreams into actions. You will find coaches are very action oriented and want to help their clients reach their goals. Coaches also hold you accountable for steps you plan to take. Christian Coaches in particular focus from a Godly perspective. Where is God leading you at this time?

Why would someone hire a coach? People hire coaches for many different reasons. Some people need help with time management. Others want to find a better balance in their lives. Some may be looking at a career change and want to research the alternatives. Some people may say, “I’m not enjoying my life and want to have more fun, how can I better use my time?” Others may want spiritual guidance in their particular situation. The reasons people hire coaches are as varied as the individual person.

What should you look for in a coach? Most coaches offer an initial free phone session. You should see if the coach understands you and really listens to what you have to say. Does the coach ask you what your goals are or does the coach set goals for you? Remember this is about you and your agenda, not the coach’s agenda. Often, you can tell in one phone session if the coach is a good fit for you. Most coaching sessions occur over the phone. So, your coach could be thousands of miles away or in your city. Location really does not matter. Some coaches also doing coaching completely over the internet. When you do set up an appointment with a coach, make sure you have a list of questions you would like to have answered.

© 2004 Kimberly Chastain
About the Author
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in helping Christian women make the most of their lives. She is the author of the on-line course, “I Can’t Say No” and Pearls of Encouragement for Christian Working Moms, a free e-book. If you suffer from “I Can’t Say ‘No” Syndrome, visit Kimberly’s site today for the details on an exciting email course that’s sure to set you free! http://www.christianworkingmom.com/online.htm.
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Every good salesman knows that you must believe in your product
or else be able to do a good job of acting like you do. It’s no
different whether you are marketing products, policies,
revolutions, or people. Marketing is marketing. Overall image
and believability is king. So how does that play out when you
are trying to market yourself?

For the sake of consistency let’s say that you’re applying for a
new job or a promotion at work. If you have high self-esteem,
you probably aren’t reading this article. So we can also assume
that you aren’t too sure of yourself. You wouldn’t be applying
for the position if you didn’t think you could do it, but you’ve
got insecurities about how you should go about presenting
yourself to the powers that be. You aren’t a professional
schmoozer and that’s not the image you want to put forth anyway.
So how does the everyday person market themselves without coming
across as too arrogant nor too shy?

Let’s start with believability. Nothing you do or say during the
interview is going to matter if you don’t come across as
believable. Your new boss has to trust you. Nobody hires someone
that they can’t trust. How do you build trust? First of all, you
have to tell the truth. There are a few people who can lie
really well, but not many. Most people can tell on some
subconscious level when they’re being lied to. You know when you
get that gut feeling that they aren’t telling you the whole
story. It’s the same way with most of us, so don’t lie during
the interview. If you really believe in yourself, then no matter
how nervous you are, the energy of open and truthfulness will
show itself.

Second, you need to look them in the eye. Don’t stare down at
your feet or gaze blankly at the cup of pens on their desk.
Force yourself to make direct eye contact and to speak as
naturally as you possibly can. It’s okay to look them straight
in the eye while shaking hands and simply say, “Forgive me, I’m
a bit nervous.” They will completely understand and say
something reassuring. If they are so uppity that they look down
at you for that, then you probably won’t enjoy working for them
anyway. You want to like your boss and coworkers just as much as
you like your job description and your paycheck. So, be open and
honest throughout the interview process and remember that you
are interviewing them as your future boss too. It’s not one
sided, you are both meeting to determine if you will work well
together.

Next let’s look at your overall image. How do you market
yourself as competent, dependable, intelligent, loyal, and an
overall asset to the company? Start out by not applying for the
job unless you are all of those things. The night before your
interview, brainstorm a list of these types of qualities that a
boss would want in an employee. Put yourself in your new boss’s
shoes. What kind of traits would you be looking for? Then run
yourself through a mock interview or even better, have a friend
help you to rehearse. Ask yourself these questions…. Am I
competent? Do I have the basic skills necessary to perform the
job or am I going to need training? How quickly do I learn? Is
this job going to require someone who is a quick self-learner?
It’s okay to stretch a bit beyond your current knowledge base
and to apply for things the will be a bit of a challenge. But
you want to be honest and not claim on your resume nor in the
interview that you’ve already mastered the skills if you
haven’t. Continue through the list… are you dependable? What
additional assets or talents beyond the basic ones listed on the
job description would you be bringing to the company? Be
prepared to tell the interviewer of those extra bonus skills
that you’d be bringing to the position. Rehearse your answers to
the imaginary questions so that when you do get into the
interview you’ll have some ideas as to aspects of yourself you
want to market to your new employer. By having your answers
semi-prepared, you will have an easier time presenting yourself
as an intelligent articulate person even if you’re scared to
death once the real interview begins.

Finally, don’t underestimate your physical image. Be on time.
Show up dressed in the appropriate outfit for the industry. Know
the name of the company, the job title, and the interviewer.
Familiarize yourself with where the bathroom is and go ahead of
time. Don’t load up on a bunch of fluids or caffeine before
hand. These things may sound silly, but there’s nothing worse
then squirming in your chair when you’re trying to come across
as casually self-confident. Monitor your speaking voice. Watch
for cuss words and street slang. Pay attention to tone and
inflection. Don’t allow a whiny voice nor a monotone droll to
cost you the career of your dreams. Again, having a friend
pre-rehearse these things with you can add tons of
self-confidence when the real interview takes place.

If you really believe in yourself, then the marketing of
yourself shouldn’t be all that difficult. Just practice what you
want to say and how you want to say it. If you really do not
believe in yourself, then you need to work on that first. If
your goal is to create a happy wonderful life for yourself, then
you are also interviewing them to see if they will fit into your
version of ‘happily ever after.’ You’re looking for a boss that
is comfortable and easy to work with. You want to love your job
and to love your life. You are offering yourself the gift of a
new job, a promotion, or a pay raise and you are showing the
world why you deserve to have it.

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge

1. Do not act in order to receive a payoff.

This is what is causing much of our discomfort as individuals and a society. As soon as you act with the purpose of receiving something, you have removed love from the act. The goal is to act as if all your needs are met, then all your thinking and behavior comes from a different perspective. You also find that you act more effectively to get those things that you truly want, because you are acting and thinking as if you already have them. The alternative is acting and thinking as if you don’t, and guess what, you don’t. The state of mind of having something creates it, not the other way around.

The place you see this most is in relationships. The more you need in relationships, the less you get. This is simply because you are saying that you are not whole until someone else meets those needs that can never be met. Often what happens is that you eventually get the opposite because you are trying to show yourself that you must look inside. Once again, in relationships you must look to be loving, respectful, and accepting, because this is saying that you have all these things to give. In the end these things will be overflowing from you. Remember if you want to have something, give it, because you must have it if you can give it.

Abundance is another area this concept plays a major role. The more you say you need and operate from a place of not having enough, the more that state of mind will be created physically. This is why the very wealthy can sometimes feel impoverished, and the very poor can sometimes feel wealthy. Remember that perception is everything and that your thinking, feelings, and actions come from those perceptions.

2. You are the only judge of your life and what you will judge in the last moment of your life, is how well you loved.

Believe it or not, you do not really care what you accomplish in your life. How much you acquire, and how successful you are will not mean a thing when you decide to leave your body. Imagine that you are all living your own movie. Each movie has different characters, a different plot, and a different setting, yet the goal for each conclusion is the same. The happy ever after ending for every movie, is that the main character loved well at least once in their life in spite of circumstances. You have probably noticed that people on their deathbed, do or say something loving, often out of character, before they go. This is because they are closer to their spirit and may finally realize that to love well was their goal. Imagine if you lived with that consciousness while you were healthy and had time. Everything else physical comes to an end when you die, but people can take your love with them long after you die.

3. You are perfect, were perfect, and always will be perfect.

To the degree that you believe this, is how much physical success you will have. The people who believe in themselves and their ability are the ones who have lasting success in their lives. Belief creates reality. Some people have success for fleeting periods of time, but it doesn’t last if their belief in themselves is dependent on what they do or what others think of them.

Belief in yourself is not like what you consider ego or arrogance. To truly believe in this perfection, you must also believe in the inherent perfection of all people and things. Remember how all things were created. Therefore you do not believe you are better than anyone, even though you may act better and have more success because you know the truth about yourself. You never have to judge or be right because you know that you cannot make anyone believe in themselves, though you can show them what it looks like. Your belief in the constant perfection of creation allows you to know that you are successful always because you cannot be anything else. Then what you choose to create will be a success and you know you can create anything.

4. You act based on what you know.

This sounds simple but is actually very profound. In order to act in a truly loving way, you must know what love really is. To be successful at anything, you need to know what success is. How many people are attempting to be successful in relationships, but don’t know what to do because they have never learned what a loving, successful relationship looks like. If you do not know what to do, you will do what you have learned, or try something that you think might work, sometimes getting lucky.

You cannot program a computer without knowing what actions you must perform. If you must learn things because it is so difficult to remember in your physical state, perseverance, patience, and belief in yourself come in handy.
Sometimes you have housed yourself in a body which does not allow you to be successful at certain physical endeavors. This you do because you choose to limit yourself so that you can focus on your higher desire to succeed at something else. If you were physically capable of the other things, you may not choose to do the thing that you really want to accomplish on a spiritual level. Many handicapped people know this and don’t like it when people feel sorry for them. They may not know why they don’t like sympathy, but they know it feels wrong.
Believe this. You have chosen the body conditions, and situations you experience. This is done on a spiritual level and for good reason. Your goal is to find out what you can do with it, not feel bad about what you cannot do.
So if you want to run a marathon, but your legs don’t work, don’t focus on not running a marathon. Find out what you can do because you cannot run a marathon.

5. Fear is your biggest enemy, and can only be conquered by faith.

Fear tells you that to only love will not be enough. Fear and faith cannot coexist or control behavior together. One or the other has to take over. Believe it or not, which one takes over is your choice. This may not appear so, because many of you have developed a habit of acting on your fear. Remember that you can act with faith even though you are feeling fear. Which habit have you developed?
This goes back to the role of emotions and how you have developed a script, so to speak, about which behaviors go with which emotions. When you say you are depressed, you are really labeling your set of behaviors and thoughts. A good experiment is to consciously act in a way that your feeling does not describe. For instance, if you are angry, try smiling and saying something nice. If depressed, exercise and tell someone what a beautiful day it is. Most importantly, if afraid, do the thing that you are afraid of if it is in your best interest (jumping off a building may not be included in this).

You may find that these strategies make you feel like a fraud, but they will show you that you can do whatever you choose in spite of what you are feeling, including loving. Remember to use the feeling as a message, but choose the behavior that most effectively and lovingly responds to the message. Knowing that you can choose gives you real power over your life.

I understood the concept of faith. To me it is a powerful word that literally leads to mental invincibility. I was really beginning to feel it in my life.

The next principle takes from the last and is perhaps the most difficult for all of you.

6. No action is involuntary, including your thoughts.

Many of you may have at least come to believe that this is true for overt behaviors, but still struggle with applying it to thoughts. The scope of this principle is out of most human conception. There is not even a body function that is completely involuntary, though the medical profession would like you to believe that they are. Most of you simply do not know the force that controls your so-called autonomic nervous system. Once you really learn where and how thoughts work, you will know this force.

Many of the things you say you are (shy, stupid, alcoholic, etc.), have (depression, diabetes, cancer, attention deficit disorder, etc.), or feel (sad, angry, love, etc.), are actually verbs, not nouns. Whether you are doing a behavior, having a body function, or thinking, you are on some level doing something voluntarily. All of it, every event that happens in your life, and in your body, is a product of thought.

You are probably thinking that there is no way that you could voluntarily be doing cancer, but it does begin with a thought, and your body is completely controlled by thought. Do you ever wonder why you don’t die in dreams very often? Because if you really think you are dead, you are. After being diagnosed with cancer you have more thoughts about that, then more thoughts about your prognosis and course of disease. If you could examine a record of every thought you have ever had, conscious and unconscious, you could find the explanation of everything you experience in your life. We have talked about thought and belief before, but what is important is that you know what is having these thoughts and how you can be the decision maker about the thoughts you have.

When you are born, there is one source of thoughts, your soul, spirit, higher self, God, whatever you choose to call it. This source has all the ultimate truths. Over time (and not a very long time) another aspect of consciousness emerges, which you can call the learned self. This is like an observer who begins to notice that you are separate, have needs for physical survival, and can experience pain. This part continues to define itself through experience. It also defines everything and everyone around it. Within a short time, by about six years, this learned self has all but completely taken over, and is giving commands to your body and the universe by its constant thoughts. Once a thought or belief is established, it may never again be consciously verbalized in your mind again. You may call these echo thoughts because they are no longer conscious, but like an echo, they continue to fill every space available. These thoughts or beliefs are usually in the form of a conclusion and are the most constant, therefore most creative thoughts of all. They begin to operate behind the scenes very powerfully and without conscious attention.

Thought is the creative force of the universe, but it needs to have conviction and consistency to manifest in physical reality. Thought is like hammering a nail. Usually one hit will not put it all the way in. You must decide where you want it and hit it until it is all the way in so it can’t easily be pulled out. This is how the echo thoughts work. They continually hammer at the nail until it is very hard to get out. Unless they are recognized, even if you try to pull them out by replacing them with other thoughts, the echo thoughts will hammer themselves back in even if they are part way out.

This is why it is so difficult for you to change your life circumstances. You are not often aware of the echo thoughts which continually maintain the circumstances. Even if you do things to change the situation, you will find yourself in a similar one at some point if the echo thought does not change.
How do you change an echo thought if it is out of awareness? Remember that everything in the universe is a manifestation of thought. If you are unsure what your echo thoughts are, there are two ways to find out. Both of these require guessing and detective work.

First, you could simply look at the circumstances throughout your life and ask what a person with this life might believe. Ask people close to you who know about your life, what they think you believe about yourself and the world. Most people will come up with similar guesses if they have some information about your situation and they are willing to be honest. This is simply working backwards from the manifested to the manifesting thought. Even if you doubt that these beliefs are present, remember that you have lost conscious awareness of them. Therefore act as if they are true based on the evidence in your life, and you will benefit anyway. If you do not challenge a belief, you will provide evidence for it in your life, period.

A second way to accomplish awareness of your echo thoughts is to look at the major messages you got from your parents, or whomever raised you. One or both parents taught you to make conclusions about yourself, the world, and other people, by their words, actions, or other more subtle means. You likely took these conclusions and accepted them as real guiding principles in your life. You wore them like glasses which you saw everything through, and they determined how you acted, thought, and reacted throughout your life. It is then inevitable that the consequences of these accumulated acts will give you what you have today.

Most important among the echo thoughts are the I am commands that are constantly working in your self-talk. These almost always come from the pre-adult years with evidence being provided throughout your teens and adulthood. Some of the more common commands you people are giving yourselves are… I am stupid… I am a quitter… I am worthless… I am a loser… I am weak and powerless… I am fat and ugly. You also make conclusions about the future: I will never be successful; I deserve to be punished and treated badly, My life sucks; I will never be happy; I always screw up; There are no decent men out there.

All of these have endless variations which may be more specific or more general. You were fortunate to discover these as your energy blockages or bumpers as you called them. Meditation and an honest inner enquiry can also give you the awareness you need.

Once you have this awareness, you can apply the sixth principle, that all thoughts and behaviors are voluntary. This is where you must be completely dedicated to find another echo thought and corresponding behaviors. This requires daily practice in all situations with conscious intent. This must take priority over all else for you to manifest these new things in your life. The hardest part is persevering until you see results. Remember that for many years you have burned the old ways in to the universal framework. The old thoughts have become like a template which will be used until another one is complete and more prominent.

7. Gratitude is the antidote for unhappiness.

This is perhaps the easiest yet most powerful truth. When there is gratitude their can be no other feeling than joy. There is always something to be grateful for even in the most dire of situations. You must find a way to focus on that which you have and are grateful for at all times. Even if you have to look at the fact that you are breathing because you can’t find anything else. Gratitude brings with it more things to be grateful for. The universe is waiting for you to be grateful so that it can give you more.

If you are dying, be grateful for your life. If someone you love is dying, be grateful for the time you had with them. If you are broke, be grateful for your health and other’s prosperity. If you are lonely, be grateful for the time with yourself. It is up to you to find and focus on gratitude. If you are envious of what someone else has, remember you are all one and be grateful for what they have.

In the end you have a choice to be grateful or not. If you choose not to, don’t expect to be happy for any great lengths of time. If you choose to be grateful because the sun comes up, you can be happy all the time in spite of your circumstances, and you can choose to change your circumstances without need because you are already grateful for what you have. If you want more, that is fine, but be grateful for what you have until you have more.

Finally, always be grateful that you know the truth about yourself and your connection to all things including God, for these things are everlasting.

This article was written in 2003 by Sean Harder, author of Earth Wisdom, and founder of WholeLifeGym; www.wholelifegym.com.

People of two opposing ideas can stir up arguments
and fights. It’s that situation when one thinks
he has the right concept while the other one also
believes he has the proper notion. Both of them
would try to outsmart each other until one claims
victory.

Here’s an actual example.

My girlfriend Riza would sometimes buy me signature
clothing. When my Mom founds out how much it costs,
she would advise us to budget our money and just buy
the affordable ones.

A problem occurs when Riza thinks that her effort
to give me the best was unappreciated. Mom, on
the other hand, would think that Riza is such
a spender.

There’s a conflict with their beliefs. No two
people are exactly alike. We are totally unique;
not only physically, but mentally and emotionally
as well.

There will be many times when your opinion will not
correspond with that of another. So how can people
prevent this kind of conflict from occurring?

Communication is the key to overcome doubts and
misunderstandings.

You should let other people know what’s in your mind.
Don’t keep them guessing.

There was a story about two couples who were filing
a divorce. After the lawyer have spoken to them
both, he found out that the root cause of all their
problems was due to miscommunication.

Here’s one of the couple’s problems.

The man filing the divorce said that he just hated
the breakfast meal that his wife often prepared for
him. On the other hand, the wife said that she’s
only preparing the meal because she thought it was
her husband’s favorite. But she never liked cooking
it because it’s very difficult to prepare.

See? If only one of them took the initiative to
speak out what’s in his or her mind, then that
particular dilemma would be over.

Now why would people prefer to keep their complaints
and criticisms to themselves? What’s holding them
back?

It’s because they do not want to be rejected. Most,
people, if not all, would like to be accepted and to
be perceived as likeable in the eyes of others.

So can you get your message across without hurting
their feelings?

Substitute negative statements with positive ones.

Instead of saying “You don’t understand,” say “Let
me explain.” Instead of remarking “You’re wrong,”
say “Permit me to clarify.” Instead of stating
“You failed to say,” just mention “Perhaps this was
not stated.”

There are certain words that affect a person more
negatively in comparison with other words that have
the same meaning.

Nothing could be more pleasing to the ear than
hearing someone else say that you are right. In
this case, be prepared to let other people know that
you respect their opinions. You may add your comments
at the end, but acknowledge them first.

Say:

You’re right, although …
Great suggestion, however …
I agree with your opinion, however …
I would feel the same way if I were you, although …
I understand your situation, however …

Reassure your counterparts that the decision made will
benefit both parties. People need to feel that they
have made the right choice.

Communication is a gift. Use it wisely for everyone’s
advantage.

Michael Lee is the author of “How To Be A Red Hot
Persuasion Wizard,” an ebook that reveals powerful
secrets on how to easily make friends, fully improve
your relationships, multiply your profits, win
negotiations, and attain freedom and power. Visit
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The world is full of problems and pains. Human being dreams of life full of happiness and smiles. But in reality it is not so. We attach money to happiness. Happiness lies in acquiring more and more money? Then why do the richest people on the earth still have sad faces? Why are their lives wrapped in sorrow? Why can’t money solve their problems? Though we have money, there are some things in the world which cannot be possessed with money. Money can buy precious things but not the mood to relish those riches; it can pretend to buy medicines for sound health but not life. In such materialistic world, there are incalculable people who cannot afford to end their sorrows. How can their suffering be healed by non-monetary means? Are we powerful enough to heal such people?

Every human being is full of energy and he is capable of using that energy to heal people in need mentally or physically. One need not know special techniques to do the regular healing. Praying is healing. When you pray to the almighty that the weak should be healed, you will be surprised of the results. For this, you need to put yourself in others’ shoes to be able to feel the pain. When you develop oneness with that person, it is then you will be able to feel the pain. When you feel the pain, you do not tend to see that person suffer in pain. You do not do the same thing that lets others suffer. During such moments, your heart will be filled with selflessness and a pure feeling to relieve them from pain. When you are selfless, any act you pray for turns out to be a great success. Selfless acts beget success. But how to heal the people who are in need?

Just pray to the Lord to bless those beings. They might be facing the consequences of their karmas. But as a human being, keep praying till they succeed. That prayer of yours alone turns itself into a great healing energy leading to success of the persons you prayed for. But don’t expect money or anything in return for your prayers to come true. The happiness and the satisfaction your heart experiences at such times are inexplicable. Do it for your own satisfaction and interest to cure the needy but not out of any selfish motive or fame.

How can we expect to earn fame for our healing when it is done purely with the help of the Almighty? It is God who helped us with a compassionate heart and also the healing energy to heal beings. Heal not humanity alone but any being in distress. Offer the gratitude people offer to you at the feet of the Lord for you to remain humble all your life. Ego can never replace humility and your life then becomes worth living for you and for others around you to.

If you do not have a mind to ease people’s problems, please do not aggravate them by scaring them of their problems and by mocking at them. When someone is hurt, all they need is a word filled with love and not embarrassment. Give them a helping hand and good suggestions or speak kind words to uplift them from their present condition. Every one is a healer if only he feels for them and their suffering. God will help you too when you come across such situations. Healing with prayer is an easy path to reach the feet of the Lord.

“When your heart wants to heal, there comes the incessant power from the Lord to heal.” -Sharmila Sanka

I am Sharmila Sanka whose hobby is to write articles to enlighten my mind and that of others. I wrote hundreds of articles, short stories, inspiring quotations and poems.
My articles got published in the news paper - ‘Arkansas Democrat Gazette’ in ARKANSAS.

Many of us find ourselves un-partnered at various times in our lives. How do you experience being single and uninvolved?

Do you worry that you are unloved, or will never find that special someone to love?

Did you feel relief at the end of a marriage or relationship that was contentious or disappointing, one fraught with conflict and dissension?

Each one of us has our own unique experience of being single and living alone. For some men and women, being single is a message that he or she is not good enough, or is flawed in some serious way. People tell me that being single is the evidence that there is something wrong with them.

Sometimes men and women without partners are afraid that friends and family members think they are alone because they are not worth being cared for. Some single people feel self-conscious going into restaurants alone or with friends, especially on weekend nights.

Being single and living alone is a chance to focus on our self, a chance to strengthen our connection to our inner life and become more introspective and contemplative. Having only ourselves to consider can be a precious gift that brings us home to ourselves; to a part of us that springs forth like an exquisite fountain in the presence of a little quiet time. Being un-partnered offers a rich opportunity to catch up with our self.

We have no doubt changed a lot over the years, though sometimes we hardly notice. It is a good time examine and explore your inside self so you can create the outside life that matches who you are being and becoming!

When we have only ourselves to consider, we have the luxury to explore new interests, dream new dreams, spend time with valued friends and family members. It can be a time to read the books you have been meaning to check out of the library, take that art class you have always wanted to take, play more golf, write poetry, learn something you have always wanted to learn, go places that have sparked your curiosity, participate in activities that move your spirit and make your heart sing; to engage life in a very personal and private way.

Embrace your life and live in the incredible moment. If being partnered again is your heart’s desire, live in the truth of that knowing. But don’t stop being present in the fullest way possible now.

Don’t waste one minute waiting to meet someone special. Be your own special you. Spend each minute living your life fully and coming from the goodness, richness, and “enoughness” that is your very essence!

Whether you choose to be single the rest of your life or someday co-create a loving partnership, being present and fully engaged in your life will remain the centerpiece of all that you are and all that you do. Take good care and let me know how you are doing!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Copyright Dr. Jackie Black 1999-2005

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Prepare, prepare, prepare! The horizon screams of spring and the budding trees, tulips poking their head above the soil and thoughts of romance and love fill our hearts and minds. Are you ready for what awaits you? Well, if not, we need to get started right away!

First things first, get your house in order, no I am not talking about the dwelling in which you reside, I am referring to the temple (your body, mind and soul) of all existence! Time to throw out all preconceived notions of what the other sex is looking for and re-create the person you are, the person you want to be!

Put that smile to work, make eye contact, approach a stranger (be careful), strike up a conversation, and take the initiative for the new beginning you want to have this year! There is no happiness greater than that which is within you, and love evolves from loving oneself.

Next, get out of that house, off that couch, turn off the TV, and enjoy the world around you. Open your eyes to the beauty of your surroundings and look in amazement how everything changes so rapidly. You are like a flower in spring, let your heart bloom, outstretch your arms and let go of that wall you have been holding up. Update your profile to reflect your newfound understanding of yourself, express your heart, your desires and watch life explode before you. Build it and they will come!

The flowerbed has always been there, but like any growing thing it needs to be nurtured and cultivated. Till your garden, pluck out the weeds, and blossom into a heart open to love and friendship. Be open to all possibilities, it is more than opening your heart, you must open your mind as well to new experiences, new people, new possibilities.

Spring is our opportunity every year to begin again, it is not a resolution, it is a cleansing of all that has been pushed to the back, open the doors and windows to your heart and find what has been waiting there all along.

It is in the air, catch it, make it your own, take what is there and let life and love happen, it will when you reveal all that is beneath the soil to grow and thrive.

Spread your wings this year, fly with no fear, be all that you know you are and can be. Make it happen!

Linda Reeves is an advice cloumnist for http://www.CupidsBlackbook.com a free dating site. She is 47 years old and lives in the American Midwest.